New(ish) mum Samantha Dooey-Miles is charting her life in doodles. This week, she’d like to explain the concept of ‘a day off’.

There’s been a big push recently to encourage people not to say that a man is ‘babysitting’ his own children when he is – OBVIOUSLY – parenting. This is a marvellous idea. And if we’re changing the language we use around childcare stuff, I have another suggestion.

Doodlebug“Oh lovely, a day off”: well-meaning friends and acquaintances say this to me when I tell them I don’t work Fridays to look after my daughter.

A day off. What thoughts does that conjure up for you? For me, it’s a lie-in, a long lazy breakfast and then doing whatever the hell I like. It is not, and never will be, getting up to roaring screams before sunrise, being pissed on and then dragging myself to a children’s soft play where I contemplate starting a black market in booze for fellow parents.

Motherhood is amazing (and all those other gushing things I’m supposed to say here) but a solid day of it on my own is as much work as what I commute into the city and receive a wage to do four days a week.

So the next time someone tells you they don’t have a job or they work reduced hours to accommodate their children, remember this poor doodled version of me – perpetually working.

See Samantha’s previous doodles here.


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Written by Samantha Dooey-Miles

Sam is a first-time mum doodling and blogging her way through teething, nappies and the constant struggle of never quite being sure whether she lives in Essex or London. Find her blog at anewessexgirl.com.